Positive Qualities – Spontaneous & Neighborly

Dear Folks,
Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully. — Author Unknown
The first thought that came to mind when I read Spontaneous and Neighborly was to be open to the opportunities life and luck present to us. Look for the chance to give a smile, lend a hand, or be tolerant of an insult – just be friendly.
Peace,
Jim
            SPONTANEOUS
Definitions: (1) acting playfully or creatively upon a sudden impulse; (2) not premeditated; not contrived or manipulated; natural; (3) done or resulting from one’s own desire
Too Far: capricious
Saying: Carpe diem (Latin): “Seize the day.”
Comments: Each quality has a default level. But you can change that level by being open to it when it comes up in your life. Consciously supporting it enhances it.
Observation:
Automatic versus Spontaneous
Your automatic reactions are put into play immediately without thought. They could be very complex responses or as simple as flight or fight. Your habitual reactions have been created genetically over many generations. You can and have modified them somewhat by your conscious actions.
A spontaneous response could, at the least, be the same as an automatic response. But it also could be much more flexible. As you add a wider range of possible options, you extend your responsiveness.
            NEIGHBORLY
Definition: showing kindness or helpfulness; friendly; sociable
Synonym: amicable
People Who Exemplify This Quality: Fred Rogers (1928-2003) American Educator and Minister
Quote:
God did not come to me through a mystical experience, but through a human being, a neighbor, an agent of his love. — Rev. Elizabeth Kilbourn (1926-2006) Canadian Educator
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Positive Qualities – Even-tempered & Fraternal

Dear Folks,
The purpose of life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love whomever is around to be loved.The Sirens of Titan, Kurt Vonnegut (1922-2007) Author
I find it hard to think before I say something. It is a lifelong quest of mine to think before I speak. The ideal of being Even-tempered requires a continual decision to remember the people I am dealing with are my brothers and sister in the most Fraternal sense. Progress is only made with some effort.
Peace,
Jim
          EVEN‑TEMPERED
Definition: placid; calm; not quickly angered, excited, or disturbed
Tip: Count to ten when you feel anger beginning to rise. It’s an old trick but it works if you have good intentions.
          FRATERNAL
Definitions: (1) relating to or involving brothers; (2) refers <in a generic sense> to the familial connection between all people, male and female; friendly; (3) characterizes one who gives special attention or favor to individuals because they are family or are as close as family.
Symbol: the garland {Fellowship}
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Positive Qualities – Agile & Handsome

Dear Folks,
Every man is the son of his own works. — Miguel de Cervantes Saavedra (1547–1616) Writer
It is good to have an agile body or a handsome face, but we know these will fade with age. What will continue to grow is an Agile mind and a Handsome soul.
Jim
            AGILE
Definitions: (1) well‑coordinated in movement; nimble; (2) active; lively; brisk; (3) mentally acute or aware; an ability to think quickly; resourceful
Synonyms: alert, spry
Symbols: 1) the stag; 2) the rabbit
Fictional Figure: Tarzan, a man raised in the jungle, became as agile as his ape family. — Edgar Rice Burroughs (1875-1950) Tarzan of the Apes
            HANDSOME

Definitions: (1) well‑proportioned in appearance; good‑looking; attractive; dapper; (2) graceful in manner; possessing propriety and respectful ease; adroit; (3) moderately elegant; neat; correct; (4) liberal; generous; gracious
Quote:

A good haircut is nice; after that you need to speak a few reasonable sentences. — Michael Hanna, 100 Thought Adjusters

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Positive Qualities – Dreaming & Knowledgeable

Dear Folks,
Share your knowledge. It is a way to achieve immortality. . — Tenzing Gyatso [The Dalai Lama] (1935 – )
Does Dreaming inform Knowledge or does knowledge give substance to your dreams?
Peace,
Jim
            DREAMING
Definitions: (1) a state of mind marked by abstraction or release from common reality; reverie; (2) something notable for its beauty, excellence, or enjoyable quality; (3) a strongly desired goal or purpose; (4) something fully satisfying a wish <as an ideal>
Quotes:
If you can dream it, you can do it. — Walt Disney (1901-1966) American Animator
It may be those who do most, dream most. — Stephen Leacock (1869-1944) English-born Canadian Teacher
If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he had imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours. — Henry David Thoreau (1817-1872) On Walden Pond

Dream is the personalized myth, myth the depersonalized dream; both myth and dream are symbolic in the same general way of the dynamics of the psyche. But in the dream the forms are quirked by the peculiar troubles of the dreamer whereas in myth the problems and solutions shown are directly valid for all mankind. — Joseph Campbell (1904-1987) The Hero with a Thousand Faces

Parable:

Once, Chong Chou dreamt that he was a butterfly. A butterfly flittering and fluttering around, happy with himself, doing as he pleased. He did not know he was Chong Chou. But then he woke up, and there he was, solid and unmistakably Chong Chou. But he did not know if he was a butterfly dreaming that he was Chong Chou, or Chong Chou who was dreaming that he was a butterfly. Between Chong Chou and the butterfly, there must be some distinction. This is called the transformation of things. — Lao-tse (6th Century bc) Chinese Mystic Philosopher

Reflection:
Dream versus Fact
Include in your dream the decision to do your best with what you’ve got. You’ve still got to look into your future with clarity, hope, faith, and courage but realize these same qualities are keys for doing your best right now. As you are doing your best in the current situation, you are developing those qualities for the realization of your dream future. Without developing the appropriate qualities specific to your ambition, you will not be able to smoothly step into your dream.
There is a natural intuition letting you know if you are capable of actualizing something. Unfortunately, there is a problem. This mechanism gets confused with the constricting reactions of fear. How do you separate your natural, positive knowing from the fear keeping you from moving? First, assess your outer world. As you do, remember and accept you are responsible for now because of your decisions and choices from the past. Know what your current external realities are. Then visualize your ideal future. Draw the curve connecting the now with the future. Compare it to the curve of where your present decisions are taking you. After that assess your inner world, especially your qualities of confidence, self‑esteem, and faith. What qualities are you developing in your current reality? What qualities are needed to let you live your dream?
Comments:
• Don’t miss out on your life. Destiny is always greater than you are at the present time. If you live up to it in your own mind, you will feel complete and satisfied, but only temporarily. There is always more.
• Following your dream doesn’t necessarily mean you’re going to make a million dollars. It does mean you are going to strive for what you consider to be your highest ideas and ideals. You may not be successful in the eyes of society if you follow your dream, but if you do what you have decided, you will experience happiness because you have pursued your most enjoyable qualities.
Admonition: It is important to be inspired by your heroes. Yet always remember their dreams were different from yours. Do not berate yourself for not measuring up.
Questions:
• When I look back on my life, will I have accomplished my fondest dreams?
• What will I most be remembered for when I die?
• What will I remembered when I wake up on the other side?
Symbol: a stormy sea
Fictional Figure: The Sleeping Beauty — Charles Perrault (1628-1703)
            KNOWLEDGEABLE
Definitions: (1) mentally understood as fact or truth; well‑informed; (2) keen to perceive; intelligent; (3) possessing appreciative insight; apprehending with clarity and certainty; (4) having a memory of or an experience with; solid recognition; (5) aware of or familiar with; having information about; (6) practiced
Synonyms: comprehension, erudite, learned, skillful
Balancing Quality: interested
Familial Qualities: Incisive: penetrating knowledge; insightful: knowledge about the inner nature of things; instinctive: knowledge from a previous generation; intuitive: knowledge without the conscious use of reasoning; perspicuous: an ability to recognize the inner other
Sayings:
Knowledge is power.
Action begets knowledge. Information begets understanding.
Nosce te ipsum (Latin); Gnothi seauton (Greek): “Know thyself.” — Socrates (c. 469-399 bc) Classical Greek Philosopher
Quotes:
The greatest thing in the world is to know how to be oneself. — Michel de Montaigne (1533-1592) French Essayist

I was gratified to be able to answer promptly. I said, “I do not know.” — Mark Twain [born Samuel Langhorne Clemens] (1835-1910) American Humorist

[Merlin:] It is never wise to turn aside from knowing, however the knowing comes. — Mary Stewart (1916 – ) The Hollow Hills

Know thyself and thou shall know all the mysteries of the gods and of the universe. — Socrates (c. 429-399 bc) Classical Greek Philosopher

 We only get in trouble when we think about it. When we don’t think about it, we know who we are. — Joe Burull (1947 – ) American Photographer
Things are known in the knower after the manner of the knower, not after their own manner of existence. — Thomas Aquinas (1225-1274) Italian Theologian
When and if we have found and understood the complete irreducible laws of physics, we certainly shall not thereby know the Mind of God. We will not even get much help in understanding the minds of slugs. . . . Instead our position will be like the chess player who has learned the rules of chess, or a would‑be pianist who can now read all the notes. This skeletal knowledge is certainly not enough for skillful play. As we approach such understanding, it is the end of the beginning, not the beginning of the end. — Frank Wilczek (1951 – ) American Theoretical Physicist
Reflection:
The existence of the knowns points to the investigation of the unknowns. We know choice, personality, experience, and all manner of positive qualities do exist. We know by personal experience how living positively is better than living negatively. Positive movement will lead to additional positive action, even in the face of evil.
Although the fact of physical death is a massive mystery, it is not unreasonable to assume we can continue our positive quest beyond the grave. If we do not continue, there would be no reason or value to exist. A nonpersonal, mechanistic universe would have no need for love and its positive ramifications.
Consideration: What do you consider to be the essentials? What do you consider to be most important, and therefore, most valuable? They are our personal, basic, fundamental realities. That’s what you will act on. When you are considering an automobile, there are certain things it must have or you will not buy it. When you are picking friends, a job, a spouse, or a religion, you have certain criteria in mind.
Comments:
• It is important to find a clear certainty in yourself. The mind is intrinsically endowed with the possibility to know and the ability to be knowledgeable. If we do not know that, then all facts and truth are suspect.
• Information is located in books, but knowledge is acquired through an interactive and personal involvement with the information. A thing must be experienced, oftentimes repeatedly, before it becomes part of our inner knowing. Even then some things cannot be retained without continued practice.
Admonition: See yourself through other people’s eyes. If you know what it is that other people appreciate about you, whether it is your natural or acquired qualities, then you can enhance those qualities.
Colors: violet, yellow
Symbols: 1) the Tree of Knowledge; 2) a rolled papyrus scroll
Structure:
Types of Knowing
1)      Memories:
          a)      highlighted: induced by smells, tastes, sound, sight, or touch
          b)      vivid: set by high value, focused by repetition, stressed by strong  emotion
          c)      partial: faded by time, clouded by feelings, adjusted by desire, replaced by other memories
2)      Experiences: past, present, or future
3)      Dreams: day‑dreams, imagination, wishful thinking, reflections, guesses
4)      Presentations: reading material, movies, plays, television
5)      Convictions: the visualization of a goal completed
6)      Associations: images that look like or remind you of other images, i.e., Rorschach ink blots, clouds
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Positive Qualities – Resourceful & Guiding

Dear Folks,
Whatever you are fascinated with, you want to create more of. — Avinash, Teacher
Your Guiding system is what you believe to be of value. You will use all of your Resourceful focus to pursue it. Distractions abound, but life presents us with a myriad of ideas, people, and situations to gain experience. Keep your choices on the lofty side.
Peace,
Jim
            RESOURCEFUL
Definition: able to deal skillfully and promptly with new situations or old difficulties; clever in finding assets; ingenious at discovering new uses for the materials at hand; inventive
Derivation: Old French, “to rise again”
            GUIDING
Definition: being in a leading position because of intimate knowledge of the way and of all its difficulties; conducting; directing
Compatible Quality: charismatic
Familial Qualities: confidence, leadership
Legendary Figure: Nestor, a wise king in Greece, the chief advisor during the siege of Troy
Mythological Figure: Mentor was a friend and tutor of Odysseus. Athena sometimes took his form as an advisor; a mentor, thus, is a wise and trusted counselor.
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Positive Qualities – Philosophical & Sleek

Dear Folks,
A man’s life is what his thoughts make of it. — Marcus Aurelius Antoninus (121–180) Philosopher
I love the qualities which have two or more connotations. One can be Philosophical in the academic sense or in the it-will-all-turn-out-ok sense. Either way, one is engrossed in the love of wisdom. There is a Sleek elegance in the appreciation of, and then the discovery of, the truth.
Peace,
Jim
            PHILOSOPHICAL
Definitions: (1) devoted to a study of the processes governing thought and conduct; (2) theoretical contemplation; (3) investigation of the principles and laws regulating the universe that underlie all knowledge and reality; (4) calm in a difficult situation; rational in the face of conflict; sensibly composed; (5) able to add meaning to confusion, put pain into context, or downplay damage which have or will occur in a lifetime
Derivation: Greek, “love of wisdom”
Symbol: the Archpriest (tarot)
            SLEEK
Definitions: (1) polished or smooth in manners, speech, or appearance; suave; (2) a well‑groomed or healthy look; dapper; elegant; (3) slender, graceful lines; stylish
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Positive Qualities – Grand & Triumphant

Dear Folks,
Life is about creating yourself. — George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) Author
Life is a Grand adventure; one we only appreciate fleetingly as we experience our Triumphs and defeats in this mortal coil. On the other side we will look back with longing and astonishment.
Peace,
Jim
            GRAND

Definitions: (1) conceived or expressed with great dignity; (2) illustrious; powerful; (3) splendid; magnificent; (4) noble; sublime; lofty; (5) important; distinguished
Synonyms: elevated, exalted, majestic, superb
Color: green
            TRIUMPHANT
Definitions: (1) notably successful; victorious; (2) rejoicing over winning; exultant; elated
Quote:  The most important thing in life is not the triumph but the struggle. — Baron Pierre de Coubertin (1863-1937) French Historian [Father of the Modern Olympic Games]
Comment: Triumphant is a quality of the past and the future. It is important to appreciate what has been accomplished. Contemplate the fact of having been triumphant in order to project it onto your next goal. Visualize it clearly and experience the victory even before it happens.
Color: red
Symbols: 1) a laurel wreath; 2) the Chariot (Tarot)
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Positive Qualities – Distinctive & Proud

Dear Folks,
As you create, you naturally evoke that which is highest in you.The Path of Least Resistance, Robert Fritz, Entrepreneur, Author
Give yourself as much credit as you would any other person for your Distinctive achievements and you positive nature. It is appropriate to be Proud of your children for growing up straight and true; for giving credit where credit is due – even for yourself.
Peace,
Jim
            DISTINCTIVE
Definitions: (1) possessing a quality, mark, or feature of admirable difference; that which makes or keeps an individual unique; (2) specially recognized or honored; eminent; superior; famous
Synonyms: discernment, notable, ranking
            PROUD
Definitions: (1) feeling pleasure or satisfaction over an honorable or creditable accomplishment of another; exultant; (2) having or showing self‑respect or self‑esteem for a personal success; (3) stately, majestic, or magnificent; (4) full of vigor and spirit; elated
Too Far: pride, the sin of
Color: green
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Positive Qualities – Romantic & Law-abiding

Dear Folks,
When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it. — Author Unknown
I was going to write a long Romantic poem about being Law-abiding but I thought I would simply suggest you get outside this spring and be thankful the laws of Ma Nature are so well balanced.
Peace,
Jim
            ROMANTIC
Definitions: (1) responsive to an imaginative or emotional appeal of what is heroic, adventurous, mysterious, or idealized; (2) loving and affectionate; (3) conducive to or suitable for a loving relationship
Derivation: Originally, a “romance” was a long narrative in verse or prose, written in one of the Romance dialects about the adventures of knights and other chivalric heroes.
            LAW‑ABIDING
Definition: obeying the law; respecting to the law
Quotes:
Only outer peace can be had through law. The way to inner peace is through love. — Peace Pilgrim [born Mildred Lisette Norman] (1908-1981) Steps Toward Inner Peace

Mere obedience to the law does not measure the greatness of a nation. . . . The true test is the extent to which the individuals composing the nation can be trusted to obey self‑imposed law. — Lord John Fletcher Moulton (1844-1921) English Barrister and Judge

Comment: Laws, rules, and regulations have been made to state the obvious, like the protection of the innocent, and also because some will take unfair advantage when the opportunity is available. When that happens, society makes a law.
On the other hand, straying from the (unfair) law may be necessity, thus civil disobedience.
Questions: What should be allowed? How much freedom should be given? The level the individual can cope with or the level the society can deal with? How can we be sure something like nuclear material or the idea of freedom can be handled safely and responsibly? – only time, trust, and common sense are safeguards.
Note: We can learn from history and hope for positive possibilities.
Symbol: the Archpriestess (tarot)
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Positive Qualities – Debonair & Sporting

Dear Folks,
Every cask smells of the wine it contains. — Spanish Proverb
Some words usually refer to men or women. Look at the qualities in the definitions of Debonair and Sporting to see that they can be lived by anyone.
Peace,
Jim
            DEBONAIR
Definitions: (1) possessing an affable manner; genial; courteous; (2) suave; urbane; worldly; (3) jaunty; cheerful; lively; carefree
Derivation: Old French, “of good disposition”
            SPORTING
Definitions: (1) characterizes one who indulges in a happy diversion <usually with others>; playful; merry; one who enjoys recreation; gamesome; (2) playing fairly and according to the rules; courteous; accepts failure gracefully and victory graciously; (3) possessing the ability to accept jestful teasing with a good sense of humor
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