Dashing

Definitions: (1) engaging in vigorous action; energetic; bold and lively; spirited (2) elegant and gallant in appearance and manner; attractive; (3) moving with sudden speed

Quotes:
• We carry adolescence around in our bodies all our lives. We get through the Car Crash Age alive and cruise through our early twenties as cool dudes, wily, dashing, winsome . . . shooting baskets, the breeze, the moon, and then we try to become caring men, good husbands, great fathers, good citizens. — Garrison Keillor (1942-) Radio personality
• There is nothing more shocking than to see assertion and approval dashing ahead of cognition and perception. — Marcus Tullius Cicero (106 bc-43 bc) Roman philosopher




Darling

Definitions: (1) very dear; beloved; cherished; popular; (2) very pleasing; charming; cute; lovable

Quotes:
• Art is the child of Nature; yes, her darling child, in whom we trace the features of the mother’s face, her aspect and her attitude. — Beck David Campbell (1970-) American musician
• All men are by nature equal, made all of the same earth by one Workman; and however we deceive ourselves, as dear unto God is the poor peasant as the mighty prince. — Plato (428-348 bc) Greek philosopher
• Plato is dear to me, but dearer still is truth. — Aristotle (384-322 bc) Greek philosopher




Daring

Definition: fearlessness in courting danger <a daring mountain climbers>; bold; courageous; intrepid; adventurous; derring‑do <daring to do>

Quotes:
• It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that things are difficult. — Seneca (c. 3 bc-65 ad) Roman Stoic philosopher
• I’ve trained all my life not to be distracted by distractions. — Karl Wallenda (1905-1978) German-American high wire artist

Symbol: a tightrope walker




Dapper

Definitions: (1) neat in dress or demeanor; spruce; trim; natty; (2) alert and lively in movement and manners

Balancing Qualities: Modest, Professional

Quotes:
• Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. – Leonardo di ser Piero da Vinci (1452–1519) Italian polymath [seven disciplines]
• On the tawny sands and shelves trip the pert fairies and the dapper elves. — John Milton (1608–1674) English poet

Observation: When one dresses up their mind and soul, it shines through their physical habiliments.




Dainty

Definitions: (1) cultured and refined in taste; particular; fastidious; (2) delicately lovely or pretty; elegant; tender

Synonyms: choice, exquisite, fine, neat, nice, rare

Poetry:
Yellow, mellow, ripened days,
 Sheltered in a golden coating;
O’er the dreamy, listless haze,
White and dainty cloudlets floating;
Winking at the blushing trees,
And the somber, furrowed fallow;
Smiling at the airy ease,
Of the southward flying swallow
Sweet and smiling are thy ways,
Beauteous, golden Autumn days
— William McKendree Carleton (1845–1912) American poet

Comment: There is room in everyone for every quality. No matter how macho you are, there is a time and place to even be dainty.

Experience: I was camping in the high Rocky Mountains when I first was picking qualities to emulate. The random choice of dainty was not exactly what I was looking for, but I took it in stride. As I was hiking, I was pleasantly surprised with the variety of dainty flowers, grasses, and soft colors. It was one of those clear, Colorado, blue-sky days when even the air was dainty. I was up on a ridge at about thirteen thousand feet when I stopped to catch my breath in the thin atmosphere. Just above and behind me, a hummingbird flew over the ridge and came right for me, hesitated, and landed on my right shoulder. He must have needed a breather too. I said hello to him, and he flew back a few feet, took a good look at me, and then landed again. Well, for a hummingbird a few seconds is a long time, so he was soon rested. He then took off and was out of sight in no time.
     This incident taught me that odd combinations of qualities happen all the time. I knew hummers are extremely aggressive and territorial, after all, they are the living descendants of dinosaurs. Even though we ascribe qualities like dainty to them, they may not think so of themselves. After this I began choosing two qualities to see how they live together.




Daffy

Definition: crazy; silly; zany

Too Far: foolish, loopy

Quotes:
• I’m in my own little world. But it’s okay; they know me here. — Daffy Duck (1937-) Animated cartoon character
• I was chasing my dreams but I tripped over my reality and busted my head on the truth. — Daffy Duck (1937-) Animated cartoon character




Cute

Definition: (1) pleasingly pretty or charmingly attractive <especially in a delicate or dainty way>; (2) an innocence so charming as to captivate the heart of others

Quotes:
• Tell me I’m clever. Tell me I’m kind. Tell me I’m talented. Tell me I’m cute. Tell me I’m sensitive, graceful and wise. But tell me the truth. — Sheldon Allan Silverstein (1930–1999) American writer, poet, & cartoonist
• I trust God’s timing. I’m a very spiritual person, and a lot of times, we want things on our time, and we come up with our own plans of what we want to do with our lives, but God be like, ‘Ha ha, you’re funny. That’s cute. Anyways, this is what you’re going to do.’ And I’ve learned to just sit back. — LeToya Nicole Luckett (1981-) American R&B singer and actress

Comment: If you are naturally cute, you will know it pretty early and you will probably use it to your advantage. Remember two things: 1) Don’t abuse your natural gifts, they can turn ugly fairly quickly; and 2) cuteness fades.




Curious

Definition: (1) strongly desirous to learn or know; (2) possessing a need to investigate; (3) quizzical

Balancing Qualities: Diplomacy, Discretion, Thoughtful

Familial Qualities: adventuresome, explorative

Consequential Quality: understanding

Too Far: nosy, prying
     Note: A person’s privacy should always be respected.

Music: “What’s Going On?” {1971}
Father, father
We don’t need to escalate
You see, war is not the answer
For only love can conquer hate
You know we’ve got to find a way
To bring some lovin’ here today
— Marvin Pentz Gaye (1939-1984) American soul singer

Proverb: Curiosity killed the cat, but satisfaction brought it back.
     Note: Curiosity not balanced by caution can be dangerous.

Quotes:
• The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity. — Dorothy Parker (1893-1967) American poet and satirist
• Satisfaction of one’s curiosity is one of the greatest sources of happiness in life. — Linus Pauling (1901-1994) American chemist

Comment: When you ask a question, you are exhibiting your desire for the qualities of knowledge, wisdom, and understanding. At the same time, you are enhancing the qualities of curiosity and wonder. And you are exemplifying communication and possibly courage.

Fictional Figure: Curious George {1941} gets in trouble because of his curiosity. He has adventures, and yet everything turns out okay. — Hans Augusto Rey (1898-1977) & Margret Rey (1906-1996) German-American authors

Symbols: the brown bear; protea flowers




Cunning

Definitions: (1) skillful; clever; shrewd; (2) created with dexterous proficiency; ingenious; (3) a display of keen insight; inventive; (4) pretty in a delicate way; cutely attractive

Synonyms: artful, astute, crafty, sly, subtle, wily

Quotes:
• Man has made many machines, complex and cunning, but which of them indeed rivals the workings of his heart? — Pablo Casals (1876-1973) Spanish cellist, composer, & conductor
• The tantalizing discomfort of perplexity is what inspires otherwise ordinary men and women to extraordinary feats of ingenuity and creativity; nothing quite focuses the mind like dissonant details awaiting harmonious resolution. — Brian Randolph Greene (1962-) American physicist & mathematician
     Note: Mr. Greene uses the word Dissonant. It certainly means the nonsense we encounter, but it also means the attempt to understand the mind or another person or even the messages from The Higher power.

Comment: Cunning also has the negative connotation of underhanded motives, but we are dealing with positive qualities here – and it is easy to tell the difference.




Cultured

Definitions: (1) a quality of refinement arising from an acquaintance with, and concern for, what is regarded as excellent in the arts, letters, and/or manners; (2) exhibiting improvement of the mind by education and training; intellectual pursuit; (3) appreciation of fine quality; enlightenment

Synonyms: accomplished, erudite, learned, polished, refined

Quote:
Cultivate truth, good faith, experience, cleverness, sociability, and industry. — Pittavus of Mytilene (c. 640-568 BC) Greek philosopher
• Culture makes people understand each other better. And if they understand each other better in their soul, it is easier to overcome the economic and political barriers. But first they have to understand that their neighbor is, in the end, just like them, with the same problems, the same questions. — Paulo Coelho de Souza (1947-) Brazilian lyricist & novelist