Definition: having polite manners; courteous; civil; suave; elegant or refined; sophisticated; polished and poised; pleasantly tactful

• If a man be gracious and courteous to strangers, it shows he is a citizen of the world. — Sir Francis Bacon (1561-1626) British philosopher and statesman
• Every peasant has a lawyer inside of him, just as every lawyer, no matter how urbane he may be, carries a peasant within himself. — Miguel De Unamuno y Jugo (1865-1936) Spanish writer & poet

Comment: We can fool ourselves into thinking that when we are doing well, cultured, sleekly urbane, etc. that we do not have to bother with growing our soul. Life soon plays its little tricks to get us to grow again.