Urbane

Definition: having polite manners; courteous; civil; suave; elegant or refined; sophisticated; polished and poised; pleasantly tactful

Quote: If a man be gracious and courteous to strangers, it shows he is a citizen of the world. — Francis Bacon (1561-1626) British philosopher and statesman

Comment: We can fool ourselves into thinking that when we are doing well, cultured, sleekly urbane, etc. that we do not have to bother with growing our soul. Life soon plays it’s little tricks to get us to grow again.