Definition: demonstrating commendable excellence or great merit; possessing noble value or distinguished character; deserving praise; estimable; virtuous
• True happiness… is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose. — Helen Keller (1880-1968) American author & lecturer (blind and deaf from 19 months old)
• It’s not our job to play judge and jury, to determine who is worthy of our kindness and who is not. We just need to be kind, unconditionally and without ulterior motive, even – or rather, especially – when we’d prefer not to be. — Josh Radnor (1974-) American actor, author, & musician
Consideration: In general, if the parents have a strong sense of self-worth, the child can then also feel safe in having that same healthy sense of intrinsic value. If life is not safe, then something else will take its place so that the child will still have an ego identity. If the ego is built on a negative pseudo-structure, these deficiencies will eventually have to be replaced with more constructive and natural qualities.
The fact is you cannot disconnect from your self. It takes courage and faith to let go of something and go toward another, but if you have a bridge to your new self, you will more easily let yourself do so. The bridge is made of the positive qualities. Accept these building materials to shore up your deficiencies. Tell yourself they are necessary, that you are worthy of them, then you will start to crave them. If you seek, the way will be made clear.